Struggling love life? Figure out your attachment pattern to excel in relationships

what is attachment?

Attachment refers to the emotional bonds you form with your parents during childhood. This early bond forms the template of the behaviour thought patterns and bonds that people emit in their relationships as adults.

what is attachment style?

Attachment styles form the behaviour and thought patterns one would emit in relationships or personally. Understanding insecure attachment styles can help one navigate adult romantic relationships since most people struggle with them.

Attachment theory?

Psychoanalyst Bowlby introduced the attachment theory; this study is evolving due to continuous research on it. Here are 4 attachment styles to understand for your personal growth and to maintain relationships, based on attachment theory.

Anxious/preoccupied

This attachment style is formed due to misattuned and inconsistent parenting.

People with this attachment style often have low self-esteem and abandonment issues; they want love and intimacy. However, in relationships, they tend to be anxious, needing constant reassurance, jealous, and in distress. 

Avoidant/Dismissive

This attachment style is formed due to emotionally distant and strict parenting, with an emphasis on self-reliance in difficult situations with no ambit to express emotions.

People with this attachment style are sus of a deeper emotional bond and are fearful of intimacy. They may be assertive, sociable, and independent.  

Disorganized/Fearful-avoidant

This attachment style is often seen in people who have been physically, verbally, or sexually abused in their childhood. Where primary caregivers are a source of fear.

People with this attachment style want intimacy. However, they are very less trusting and inconsistent in behaviour. They may be confident and attractive, but soon their distrusting nature comes to the forefront. This is the most difficult attachment style of all.

Secure

This attachment style is formed with consistent and emotionally expressive parenting.

People with this attachment style are self-content and also comfortable in relationships, self-aware and okay with proximity. Dating and relationships are not an issue for such people with their awareness and openness.