Raksha Bandhan: 4 Easy Ways To Bring Back The Childhood Love In Your Brother-Sister Relationship

New Delhi: Small fights between brothers and sisters in childhood are also a part of the sweetness of the relationship. Sometimes a fight over the TV remote, sometimes an argument over a favourite thing and then sitting together and laughing after a while, these moments are often remembered after growing up. Between job, studies, marriage and family responsibilities, brother-sister meetings become less frequent and conversations are also not the same as before. Rakshabandhan is such an occasion when the distance in the relationship can be reduced by taking some time out from this busy schedule.

Can the conversation start again from childhood memories?

When meeting a brother or sister after a long time, there is no need for any serious issue to start the conversation. Take out old albums, look at childhood photos and share stories of those days when both of you used to stay angry for hours over small things. Pranks at school, things you did secretly from your parents, or time spent together over the holidays can facilitate conversation. Many times, laughing and joking over old memories becomes the way through which the distance that has been going on for a long time starts reducing automatically.

Is it better to leave old resentments behind and take the initiative?

The pattern of complaints also changes with increasing age. Earlier, if there was a fight between brother and sister, the discussion would start on its own after some time, but as you grow up, even small matters can remain in your mind for a long time. In such a situation, thinking about who will call first can further distance the relationship. If there is resentment in the mind regarding any matter, then on Rakshabandhan, efforts can be made to resolve it through talks. Along with expressing your views, it is equally important to listen to the other person's point of view.

Is giving time to brother or sister more important than gift?

The tradition of giving gifts on Rakshabandhan has its place, but intimacy in a relationship does not come only from goods. If possible, spend a few hours with your brother or sister on this day. Eat dinner together, go out somewhere or just sit at home and talk about old things. The most important thing is to keep the mobile phone and other work away for some time during the conversation. Listening carefully to the other person can make him feel that he is equally important in your life even today.

Can a relationship remain strong despite different thoughts and decisions?

After growing up, the life of brothers and sisters is not the same. Someone's career may go in a different direction while someone's priorities may be related to family or personal life. In such a situation, considering every decision according to one's own thinking can create tension in the relationship. It is not necessary that both have the same opinion on every issue. But despite disagreements, each other's circumstances and decisions can be respected. Standing together unconditionally in times of need strengthens trust in the brother-sister relationship.

Should one take out time for this relationship even after Rakshabandhan?

Change in relationships does not happen in a day and just one day of festival is not enough to keep them strong. Even after Rakshabandhan, it is important to call from time to time, inquire about your well-being and sit together whenever you get a chance. Sometimes even a meaningless call keeps the relationship warm. If a brother or sister is in trouble, it makes more sense to stand by him or her rather than just giving advice.

The brother-sister relationship does not end with childhood, rather its form changes with age. While earlier playing and fighting together were the hallmark of this relationship, as we grew up, trust, understanding and togetherness became its strength. Along with tying Rakhi on Rakshabandhan, if some time is given to the old relationship, then the same warmth of childhood can be felt again.